Finding the good in our marriages is a great reminder that our marriage isn’t all bad. The happy times, the fun times, all the laughter and positive stuff can be hard to remember when things get bad so keeping some kind of record can help us as caregivers remember that the bad doesn’t totally consume our marriage. Did he tell you the joke that his buddy told him, just so you could share the laugh? Did he tell you a silly story about work that day? Did he wash the car or do an oil change? Being able to find pleasure in the little things as well as the big stuff can also go a long way towards changing our perceptions, expectations, and keeping balance in our marriages.